The Forgiveness Tree



Switched at Birth (TV series)

Switched at Birth (TV series) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I know that this is not about fashion-oriented people per se, but many fashion-oriented people, such as tattooed people can related. I was pleasantly surprised with how well ABC Family treated graffiti. The graffiti argument on The Forgiveness Tree episode of Switched at Birth really seems to express the feelings of those who like graffiti (or tattoos or whatever else), as well as those who just don’t get it.

Bay paints graffiti on her father’s wall at work. He is upset and asks her to paint over it, not knowing that she painted it herself. She argues with him about graffiti, being especially upset when he doesn’t differentiate between graffiti artwork and a tag.

This is what Bay says about why people, such as her, paint graffiti: It is people who are otherwise invisible, expressing themselves the only way they know how.

Eventually, someone convinces her that maybe if he knew it was her who painted the graffiti that his feelings for it would change, so she confesses that she did it.

Bay [to John]: thought you would like it

John [to Bay]: I feel like I don’t know you.

I’ve had my own moments like this. I feel the same way about my need to dress Goth and am glad to find a sentence expressing that sentiment so well. I have also been in the situation where I felt that my parents didn’t know me. However, ironically, it was lately that my father felt that I did not know him. We worked our way through that together and came out the other end alright.

I think A Course in Miracles sums up this episode well, as well as what I am trying to convey: “Perception follows judgment” —A Course in Miracles, Lesson 312

Cover of "A Course in Miracles: Combined ...

Cover of A Course in Miracles: Combined Volume

To that I would add (and this is key) that you are responsible for your own perceptions. For those who grew up in the Christian tradition, and many of those who are Goths were (in my experience), the Bible says this same thing in a different way:

Judge not lest ye be judged” —Matthew 7:1


Changing the Game Plan Part II


I was thinking about how this is an online business initially and will not be a brick-and-morter business until donations and sales result in enough capital. Therefore, even though the focus is on fashion freedom, no one can actually see each other in a natural face-to-face way, so no one can practice getting past the real images that face us and the perceptions we have of those images through this medium. Therefore, I have decided to change the initial focus to inclusive, inner “spirituality” focused on practical application (how to open your mind by combating ego and the reactive mind), not on dogma. What this means is that the focus will temporarily shift to Kabbalah, Dianetics, Buddhism, Maum Meditation, metaphysics, channeled writings, and other proven means of facilitating open-mindedness. Some may consider these means religious, but are in actuality something people can practice with any set of religious beliefs. The side effects of using these methods will be improved health, relationships, and finances. The brick-and-morter business will still be a fashion-focused safe haven. However, by making this temporary shift in the initial stage, most customers should already have practiced open-mindedness skills, thus making the safe haven aspect of the business more effective and rewarding.