The Forgiveness Tree

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Switched at Birth (TV series)

Switched at Birth (TV series) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I know that this is not about fashion-oriented people per se, but many fashion-oriented people, such as tattooed people can related. I was pleasantly surprised with how well ABC Family treated graffiti. The graffiti argument on The Forgiveness Tree episode of Switched at Birth really seems to express the feelings of those who like graffiti (or tattoos or whatever else), as well as those who just don’t get it.

Bay paints graffiti on her father’s wall at work. He is upset and asks her to paint over it, not knowing that she painted it herself. She argues with him about graffiti, being especially upset when he doesn’t differentiate between graffiti artwork and a tag.

This is what Bay says about why people, such as her, paint graffiti: It is people who are otherwise invisible, expressing themselves the only way they know how.

Eventually, someone convinces her that maybe if he knew it was her who painted the graffiti that his feelings for it would change, so she confesses that she did it.

Bay [to John]: thought you would like it

John [to Bay]: I feel like I don’t know you.

I’ve had my own moments like this. I feel the same way about my need to dress Goth and am glad to find a sentence expressing that sentiment so well. I have also been in the situation where I felt that my parents didn’t know me. However, ironically, it was lately that my father felt that I did not know him. We worked our way through that together and came out the other end alright.

I think A Course in Miracles sums up this episode well, as well as what I am trying to convey: “Perception follows judgment” —A Course in Miracles, Lesson 312

Cover of "A Course in Miracles: Combined ...

Cover of A Course in Miracles: Combined Volume

To that I would add (and this is key) that you are responsible for your own perceptions. For those who grew up in the Christian tradition, and many of those who are Goths were (in my experience), the Bible says this same thing in a different way:

Judge not lest ye be judged” —Matthew 7:1

 

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The Word “Alternative”

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1al·ter·na·tive

adjective \ȯl-ˈtər-nə-tiv, al-\

Definition of ALTERNATIVE

2: offering or expressing a choice <several alternative plans>
3:different from the usual or conventional: as

a : existing or functioning outside the established cultural, social, or economic system <an alternative newspaper> <alternativelifestyles>

b :of, relating to, or being rock music that is regarded as an alternative to conventional rock and is typically influenced by punk rock, hard rock, hip-hop, or folk music

c : of or relating to alternative medicine <alternative therapies>

al·ter·na·tive·ly adverb
al·ter·na·tive·ness noun

Examples of ALTERNATIVE

  1. Scientists are developing an alternative approach to treating the disease.
  2. He developed an alternative design for the new engine.

First Known Use of ALTERNATIVE

1540

2alternative

noun

Definition of ALTERNATIVE

1
a :a proposition or situation offering a choice between two or more things only one of which may be chosen

b : an opportunity for deciding between two or more courses or propositions

2
a :one of two or more things, courses, or propositions to be chosen

b : something which can be chosen instead alternative to intervention>

Examples of ALTERNATIVE

  1. We decided to leave since our only other alternative was to wait in the rain.
  2. I was offered no alternative.
  3. The menu offered several vegetarian alternatives.

First Known Use of ALTERNATIVE

1576

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al·ter·na·tive

adjective \ȯl-ˈtər-nət-iv, al-\   (Medical Dictionary)

Medical Definition of ALTERNATIVE

: of, relating to, or based on alternative medicine <alternative therapies>

I love all things alternative, alternative rock, alternative fashion, alternative news, alternative medicine, alternative lifestyles, and I started Lavoce due to my desire for an alternative career. To me, “alternative” is another word for liberty and freedom of choice (no, I’m not being political here). What I mean to say is that it celebrates our free will and our willpower that drives us to succeed in whatever it is we want to do, whether it is spend our life playing video games and learning how to tie a cherry stem with your tongue or joining the circus. You have 100% control over your destiny because you have the power of choice. Have fun with it. Enjoy it. Do what you love and love what you do. Live the American dream: always be in pursuit of your happiness.

I don’t care if you want to go all out and do something like some Japanese did in this article, which showcases an example of a wild alternative style: http://living.msn.com/style-beauty/simply-chic-blog-post/?post=324569dc-719f-40de-908e-2cb803e0e27e&_nwpt=1. Whatever you want to do is 100% OK with me. I support any alternative path you take.

My name ain’t eBo for nothing. If you take the words “be” and “do,” remove the “d,” and shuffle the letters, you get my name because I want you to be and do whatever you want. Don’t let anyone ever steal your dreams.

As Robert Frost said, “I took the one [road] less traveled by,/And that has made all the difference.”

Source: http://www.merriam-webster.com

Mothers Need Lavoce

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Mother with pink hair

Mother with pink hair

Above is a picture (albeit a fuzzy picture) of a mother with pink dreadlocks and a midriff carrying a baby. I see this all time. So many fashion-oriented people are parents. What is more important to you, parents? The pink hair (or whatever else) or the baby? Do you want to find a win-win solution where you can have pink hair AND a good future for your child? Then why are you still working at Target, Macys, Giant, or any other retail store that pays minimum wage? You need Lavoce…badly. There is NO OTHER company in the world that will teach you how make more money as a successful, working woman in the corporate world AND keep your hair pink. I swear to you, there is NO OTHER company out there willing to stick its neck out for YOU. Take advantage of it. It’s not that hard. It really isn’t.

 

Killing Sikhs is Sick!

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You might have heard about the shooting in the Sikh temple in Oak Creek, WI. Many Americans are still ignorant about the Sikh culture in general. One of the many things Lavoce can do is open your mind to the Sikh culture and Sikhs in general. You can learn more about the turban, that one article of clothing that makes them eligible to be covered were “fashion” included in Title VII of the Civil Rights Act. It is clear that we have a long way to go in opening people’s minds. Let’s start now.

Though it is an extreme case, Lavoce ambassadors are like the police officer who sacrificed his life for his fellow men. If people are too afraid to raise their hands to ask something in a classroom or webinar or are too afraid to return an RSVP to give the news that they will not be able to attend an event, imagine how many more are too afraid to stand up for their fellow citizens?

I wanted to address the white elephant in the room here as there is talk about music influence, similar to the talk surrounding the Columbine incident in the ’90s. Sure, it gave people a bad impression of the Goth culture since the shooters wore black trench coats, but time and again it was proven that the shooters were not Goths, and Goths cannot all be lumped under the category of “wears black.” Do you really think Goths would let an incident that happened in the ’90s affect an entire culture that started in the ’70s. If that is what people think, then they have another thing coming. It is all the more reason to be role models, to be twice as much as our “normal” counterparts. When Cho killed students in Virginia Tech, Koreans all over the world didn’t hide or look for cover just because a bad seed happened to be from Korea. Likewise, people in the military and veterans will not hide because the shooter happened to be from the Army. It’s true that the squeaky wheel gets the grease, just think back to your school days, but it should not be that way. This is why the new Goth, Lavoce ambassadors, should take part in giving and receiving recognition, so that no good deeds goes unrewarded and so that the good guys don’t finish last. Goodness prevails always. As sung in the musical, Wicked, “No one mourns the wicked.”

From Cloud to Star

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You might be curious about Lavoce’s logo. Here is an abbreviated and partial explanation, from cloud to star. Let’s take a walk down logic lane.

Since every definition of Goths I have found is different based on the person explaining it, I have always found that the fast and easy definition of a Goth is usually someone who wears black. What is wrong with black?

If you have a dandruff problem, it shows. It displays poor grooming. It’s a seasonal color and is best for the winter. When it’s summertime, black attracts heat and the sun’s rays. However, no amount of parasols are going to keep that sun from giving you a tan, no matter how much you use skin whitener. Black has no gradations and only works well with certain skin tones, making some people look pallid and sickly (the negative attitude increases the languid and lethargic look). Black is slimming, which is fine for those who want to look slimmer, but can make an already skinny person look emaciated. Black is sometimes scary as it is representative of the night and makes mothers want to take their child and run away as fast as possible. Is it any wonder why Goths did not receive the respect they so wanted back in the 70s, 80s, and 90s?

The proposed solution is gray. Dandruff would not be as apparent, so the wearers of gray would seem better groomed. It’s appropriate for any season. It’s appropriate in the workplace (black is appropriate still, but not all black). It goes with every skin tone as it can be as dark or as light as you want it to be. It enhances the feeling of individuality because there are many shades of gray. It is an approachable color, and will make people more conversational.

The new Goth of the millennium is brighter, sharper, more approachable, more open-minded, healthier, and more of an individual. The new Goth knows how to make a good first impression and is a champion for others. The new Goth dispels myths on behalf of the old Goth.

The new Goth is in control of his destiny; he is not being controlled by the winds or the external environment.

The new Goth makes an activist choice; he does not follow the trend. Therefore, no one can say that he is going through a phase. If there is any trend he follows, it is a positive trend, the trend of being positive, not negative, not mopey, not depressed.

The new Goth does not have a cloud over his head. He is a star, illuminating light wherever he goes.

The new Goth is a winner, a champion, a hero, a star.

The new Goth wears gray.