Your Identity Doubles as Community Service

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Are you ready to do community service? Many times people associate that word with punishment. But is it really? Don’t we all seek a job that would fulfill us? What best fulfills us? Giving and serving with a cause we believe in.

When you claim your Gothness, you have a moral and ethical obligation to be a representative of all Goths and to serve all Goths. The way to best serve other Goths is to be your absolute best, authentic self. When you are yourself, you give license and permission for other to be themselves. In that way you make them “licensed” Goths; you are paying it forward, making it easier for another Goth to feel safe, loved, and appreciated in this world. Since ours is an underserved community, we must take particular care to keep the community healthy (and alive!) Think of your unique talents and abilities and consider ways that you can give to the community. (I don’t like to say “give back” since you didn’t take anything). When you have come up with your list, narrow it down. What will best serve the Goth economy? What will best serve all dimensions of a Goth or similar person person in a similar culture?  I don’t like saying “subculture” because we do not subordinate ourselves nor should we.

One way that I serve the Goth economy is through Toastmasters. Toastmasters is a safe environment for socializing and  professional growth. Adding Goths to Toastmasters is a twist on the tried and true.

If you live in the Denver area, consider joining next week. For more information, see Freaks Who Speak Toastmasters Club.

Freaks Who Speak Toastmasters Club

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What: Freaks Who Speak Toastmasters Club
When: September 18th from 7-8:30PM
Where: Scum of the Earth Church @ 935 W 11th Ave, Denver, CO 80204
Who: This will be an open club. There is an 18+ age requirement to be an official member, but all ages are allowed to participate in meetings to some extent. Normie allies of the Goth community are also welcome.
Why: There are many introverts with stories to share in the Goth community, but also few job skill trainings and resume-enhancing trainings targeted specifically to the Goth community
How: District 25 will provide a demonstration meeting to see if there is interest in the Goth community. Something like this has never been done before now!

Toastmasters Flyer

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Welcome to Lavoce’s Directory

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Do you ever get a nagging feeling that you should be doing something more important than what you are doing most of the time? I have had this feeling, and it’s been getting under my skin. You see, I have a pet project that I have worked on for some time. It is not perfect, but I have finally come to the realization that, with the limited time I have to work on such a time-consuming project, it may never be perfect, so I have decided to finally share it with you even though it’s still (and forever) in progress. I give to you Lavoce’s Directory: the most comprehensive and up-to-date (as in this decade, not the ’80s) Goth directory ever to be found on the Internet. The formatting is not the best and it’s not always in alphabetical order, but it is more useful for reviving the Goth community on the Internet than it is on my desktop. Even this introduction might not be the greatest introduction to such an amazing time-consuming project, but I hope that you can get some use out of it. Here you go!

Lavoce Directory

If you have suggestions on how I can improve it, please email me at lavoce.wap2@gmail.com. After I have posted the PDF online, I will be abandoning the PDF and will be moving it gradually to a software that will do a better job of formatting the directory for the Web. See the outline I have here: www.stylefreedominfomediary.com. I urge you to check in on my progress, but please be patient.

Pavisand

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The Oxford English Dictionary defines “pavisand,” a verb meaning “to display an impressive or opulent array of clothing and ornament; to flaunt one’s appearance.”

Goths, freaks, and other fashion-oriented types (including the tattooed) live lifestyles of pavisanding. To us, there is no other way to be. Our bodies are works of art. We are artists first and foremost, and we want the world to know. I was expressing this to my mother the other day. She looked at me with a confused expression and gave me the trite question: “But isn’t that a phase?” Here we go again. You’ve all been there, haven’t you? You all know what it’s like to explain. I don’t know if it’s a personality type thing or not (like maybe only the introverted feel the need to express what their mouths do not), but for some reason it is a real challenge expressing why we express who we are. Apparently, many people do not feel the need to self-identify for strangers. My father tells me that he doesn’t understand why homosexuals feel the need to express who they are, thinking that what is one’s entire identity is merely a private act that should be kept secret. My mother tells me that she doesn’t understand why I also feel the need to state that I’m an adoptee, as if the fact that my race, being different from my parents’ race, should also be a private and secret thing even when it is clearly visual and easy to see even for Captain Obvious, and is an important fact to convey to a medical doctor. What are your feelings on self-expressions of identity? Why is it important to you? How do you explain this to others? I remember taking a philosophy class on identity. What a challenging class! Is identity even important? Why do we obsess about who we are? Why does it matter? Leave your comments below.

An Example of a Corporate Goth

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A friend just introduced me to a website about sacred geometry. I will not actually be talking about sacred geometry here. What really struck me was the man’s professional attire in the introduction video. I believe he is a very good example of a corporate goth. Take a look at his professional, but Goth-y* attire here: www.corelove.net.

For more examples, see his assistants here: www.corelove.com.

If you’re actually interested in sacred geometry, you can continue on with the first site. However, if it’s a little above your head, but you’re still interested in a toned-down version, check out their other site: www.sacredg.com.

This is not an advertisement for their products. This is merely to show everyone what I had in mind with my vision for Lavoce.

*I said “Goth-y” instead of Goth because I do not know how he identifies himself.

Lavoce’s New Mission

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I took a one-year hiatus from Lavoce because I knew I needed that much time to reformulate the plan of action. Now there is only one month left, and I have finally decided what to do and why the original plan had failed.
Lavoce’s New Mission:
To make the world suitable for freaks and make freaks suitable for the world.
At first I thought Lavoce should be a library of books and resources that allow people to really understand freaks they know and similar freaks. But who would fund this? And who reads books anymore? Then I thought it needs to be an online retail shop with a coaching program because it needs to make money somehow. But why would I need to take my sustenance from others who are worse off than me?
Now I have thought about Lavoce being a job training and reentry program. It will not just be a reentry program for ex-convicts, but for anyone who left mainstream society of their own will in the belief that they could not be themselves within it. Of course, there will still be a small retail component, but it will mostly be there for raising awareness.

Before I start such a long journey into researching the ins and outs, I believe I will write a  book that can be used as the textbook, Formal Freaks. The plan is to make punks, Goths, tattooed people, skaters and outcasts into professional punks, grown-up Goths, trusted tattooed people, sharp-suited skaters, and generally, corporate outcasts. It will be for the people who are outcasts that want a better paying job to pay their bills and increase their standard of living.

Don’t get too excited. This entire project is still many years in the making, but it will get done eventually because…

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Tried and True

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I have tracked several Goth sites for many years now and would like to share this list with all of you. All the sites listed here have staying power; they have been around for at least eight years, and they are still going strong. Considering how much has changed in both the Goth scene and the Internet world, this is an impressive feat, and I’m sure it makes the consumer feel a lot better that their favorite website will not turn into a pumpkin once the clock strikes midnight.

Recommended Links*: https://lavocewap2.wordpress.com/store/recommended-links/

Talking about pumpkins…what are your plans for Halloween?

*If you want to see the list of fetish (18+) sites, you will need to become a member.

The Forgiveness Tree

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Switched at Birth (TV series)

Switched at Birth (TV series) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I know that this is not about fashion-oriented people per se, but many fashion-oriented people, such as tattooed people can related. I was pleasantly surprised with how well ABC Family treated graffiti. The graffiti argument on The Forgiveness Tree episode of Switched at Birth really seems to express the feelings of those who like graffiti (or tattoos or whatever else), as well as those who just don’t get it.

Bay paints graffiti on her father’s wall at work. He is upset and asks her to paint over it, not knowing that she painted it herself. She argues with him about graffiti, being especially upset when he doesn’t differentiate between graffiti artwork and a tag.

This is what Bay says about why people, such as her, paint graffiti: It is people who are otherwise invisible, expressing themselves the only way they know how.

Eventually, someone convinces her that maybe if he knew it was her who painted the graffiti that his feelings for it would change, so she confesses that she did it.

Bay [to John]: thought you would like it

John [to Bay]: I feel like I don’t know you.

I’ve had my own moments like this. I feel the same way about my need to dress Goth and am glad to find a sentence expressing that sentiment so well. I have also been in the situation where I felt that my parents didn’t know me. However, ironically, it was lately that my father felt that I did not know him. We worked our way through that together and came out the other end alright.

I think A Course in Miracles sums up this episode well, as well as what I am trying to convey: “Perception follows judgment” —A Course in Miracles, Lesson 312

Cover of "A Course in Miracles: Combined ...

Cover of A Course in Miracles: Combined Volume

To that I would add (and this is key) that you are responsible for your own perceptions. For those who grew up in the Christian tradition, and many of those who are Goths were (in my experience), the Bible says this same thing in a different way:

Judge not lest ye be judged” —Matthew 7:1

 

The Word “Alternative”

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1al·ter·na·tive

adjective \ȯl-ˈtər-nə-tiv, al-\

Definition of ALTERNATIVE

2: offering or expressing a choice <several alternative plans>
3:different from the usual or conventional: as

a : existing or functioning outside the established cultural, social, or economic system <an alternative newspaper> <alternativelifestyles>

b :of, relating to, or being rock music that is regarded as an alternative to conventional rock and is typically influenced by punk rock, hard rock, hip-hop, or folk music

c : of or relating to alternative medicine <alternative therapies>

al·ter·na·tive·ly adverb
al·ter·na·tive·ness noun

Examples of ALTERNATIVE

  1. Scientists are developing an alternative approach to treating the disease.
  2. He developed an alternative design for the new engine.

First Known Use of ALTERNATIVE

1540

2alternative

noun

Definition of ALTERNATIVE

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a :a proposition or situation offering a choice between two or more things only one of which may be chosen

b : an opportunity for deciding between two or more courses or propositions

2
a :one of two or more things, courses, or propositions to be chosen

b : something which can be chosen instead alternative to intervention>

Examples of ALTERNATIVE

  1. We decided to leave since our only other alternative was to wait in the rain.
  2. I was offered no alternative.
  3. The menu offered several vegetarian alternatives.

First Known Use of ALTERNATIVE

1576

Related to ALTERNATIVE

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al·ter·na·tive

adjective \ȯl-ˈtər-nət-iv, al-\   (Medical Dictionary)

Medical Definition of ALTERNATIVE

: of, relating to, or based on alternative medicine <alternative therapies>

I love all things alternative, alternative rock, alternative fashion, alternative news, alternative medicine, alternative lifestyles, and I started Lavoce due to my desire for an alternative career. To me, “alternative” is another word for liberty and freedom of choice (no, I’m not being political here). What I mean to say is that it celebrates our free will and our willpower that drives us to succeed in whatever it is we want to do, whether it is spend our life playing video games and learning how to tie a cherry stem with your tongue or joining the circus. You have 100% control over your destiny because you have the power of choice. Have fun with it. Enjoy it. Do what you love and love what you do. Live the American dream: always be in pursuit of your happiness.

I don’t care if you want to go all out and do something like some Japanese did in this article, which showcases an example of a wild alternative style: http://living.msn.com/style-beauty/simply-chic-blog-post/?post=324569dc-719f-40de-908e-2cb803e0e27e&_nwpt=1. Whatever you want to do is 100% OK with me. I support any alternative path you take.

My name ain’t eBo for nothing. If you take the words “be” and “do,” remove the “d,” and shuffle the letters, you get my name because I want you to be and do whatever you want. Don’t let anyone ever steal your dreams.

As Robert Frost said, “I took the one [road] less traveled by,/And that has made all the difference.”

Source: http://www.merriam-webster.com

Mothers Need Lavoce

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Mother with pink hair

Mother with pink hair

Above is a picture (albeit a fuzzy picture) of a mother with pink dreadlocks and a midriff carrying a baby. I see this all time. So many fashion-oriented people are parents. What is more important to you, parents? The pink hair (or whatever else) or the baby? Do you want to find a win-win solution where you can have pink hair AND a good future for your child? Then why are you still working at Target, Macys, Giant, or any other retail store that pays minimum wage? You need Lavoce…badly. There is NO OTHER company in the world that will teach you how make more money as a successful, working woman in the corporate world AND keep your hair pink. I swear to you, there is NO OTHER company out there willing to stick its neck out for YOU. Take advantage of it. It’s not that hard. It really isn’t.