What I’m Thankful For

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I am thankful for likeminded people who are supporting a healthy attitude toward style that is all too often ignored. Just because I have a blog specifically geared toward the more fashion eccentric, I believe that at the core of it is an admirable mission to be happy in your own skin and to feel that others support that. One of the likeminded people I discovered is Katie Cassidy, author of the blog, Tomboy KC. True, she may be more mainstream than the people I would normally promote, but I think her sentiment is one that I can relate to. In Shape magazine, she states “I hope it [my blog] empowers people to express themselves through their clothing. Women are often trying to figure out who they are and what they want to do with their lives. Creating this site has been a big part of my personal journey.” Please see it for yourself if you are so inclined. I will first direct you to her manifesto: http://tomboykc.com/manifesto/

 

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Letters to the Audience

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To the fashion-oriented: Most Americans don’t know what it’s like to live in a totalitarian regime where one is stripped of their freedoms and are censored from speaking out, but we know what it’s like, don’t we? Every strand of rainbow hair, every tattoo, every piercing, is an expression of bravery. It is an expression of the truth. It is an expression of American ideals: freedom. Why else would we wear items of bondage (corsets, dog collars, etc.)? Because we are in bondage. When America does experience such a state, such that will make us seem like a Middle Eastern country, most will be shocked at how their freedoms are stripped away, but we will not be surprised for we have experienced it every day.

Why do you think modern art is so prevalent? Because it doesn’t cause one to think. I understand you. I understand that what you are doing is to get people to think by what we wear. Sadly, we can’t. Clothing is too easy to misconstrue. People are not going to get it until we talk to them about why we wear what we wear, peacefully and constructively.

Don’t be angry, instead “forgive them for they know not what they have done.” (Luke 23:24). Most people don’t intend to be mean or hateful and those who do are crying out for love. Awareness is the key here. Awareness is what we need to spread throughout the nation and every nation.

However, if you do not dress to express your inner being, if you do not dress for art’s sake, and if you do not dress to get others to think, then I want to say this: If you think you get a lot of attention, you don’t. And you wouldn’t want it either. Some of you are beautiful by society’s standards. Just imagine how much attention you would get as a quadriplegic, or as a Siamese twin, or as a bearded lady. You do not even have hypertrichosis, or werewolf syndrome. You ain’t got nothing on attention-getting. I, or anyone else, would never do business with someone who only dresses radically to get attention. It makes everyone else who dresses  to send out a message about one’s inner being, or about observation’s of the surrounding culture, look bad and not brave. This is what makes people think that we do not deserve respect or to be treated as an intelligent human being, even though we are.

To the mainstream: In Switched at Birth, ABC Family TV show, the character Bay comes back from the Galapagos Islands with a feather in her hair. Her brother is not a fan, but she tells him something to the effect of “There’s nothing you can say that will make me take it out.” This is how the fashion-oriented feel when they are told how to dress for an interview or just to go to work to pay their bills. An example of this is tattoos. Tattoos are seen as a no-no to interviews. However, many tattoos are religious, military, related to love (e.g., “I love Mom” tattoos), or symbols of self-expression (even if the expression is one of humor).

Some Israelis bear Holocaust tattoos to remind others to remember the Holocaust or to bear the mark of pride that they are descendants of survivors: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/10/01/world/middleeast/with-tattoos-young-israelis-bear-holocaust-scars-of-relatives.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0

To reduce it to an embarrassment or like a mole is to be disrespectful to the nth degree.

I have learned the importance of boundaries and what I will or will not tolerate. I will not tolerate people who inadvertently attempt to nullify one’s entire existence, which is what people do who do not understand the fashion-oriented. I will not tolerate those who attempt, even if unknowingly, to eradicate my pride or anyone else’s pride. Most tattoos, and other items of fashion, are a symbol of pride, perhaps showing that one is a survivor or showing that one is in love. Anyone who disregards the importance of symbols also disregards the importance of the sacred. To believe people will be willing to sacrifice a reminder or expression of the most significant moment or thing in their life for a paycheck (which is what employers do at interviews), is inhumane, cruel, hateful, and accepted.

If you are a religious person, if you wish to do no harm in this life, or if you do not want to feed the oppression, then I would encourage you to help spread the awareness of how the fashion-oriented are being dehumanized daily. Your neighbor’s ignorance is unacceptable when all you need to do is have an open conversation. The next time you see someone who chose self-expression over a paycheck, do not feel pity for that person, feel inspired.

The Word “Alternative”

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1al·ter·na·tive

adjective \ȯl-ˈtər-nə-tiv, al-\

Definition of ALTERNATIVE

2: offering or expressing a choice <several alternative plans>
3:different from the usual or conventional: as

a : existing or functioning outside the established cultural, social, or economic system <an alternative newspaper> <alternativelifestyles>

b :of, relating to, or being rock music that is regarded as an alternative to conventional rock and is typically influenced by punk rock, hard rock, hip-hop, or folk music

c : of or relating to alternative medicine <alternative therapies>

al·ter·na·tive·ly adverb
al·ter·na·tive·ness noun

Examples of ALTERNATIVE

  1. Scientists are developing an alternative approach to treating the disease.
  2. He developed an alternative design for the new engine.

First Known Use of ALTERNATIVE

1540

2alternative

noun

Definition of ALTERNATIVE

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a :a proposition or situation offering a choice between two or more things only one of which may be chosen

b : an opportunity for deciding between two or more courses or propositions

2
a :one of two or more things, courses, or propositions to be chosen

b : something which can be chosen instead alternative to intervention>

Examples of ALTERNATIVE

  1. We decided to leave since our only other alternative was to wait in the rain.
  2. I was offered no alternative.
  3. The menu offered several vegetarian alternatives.

First Known Use of ALTERNATIVE

1576

Related to ALTERNATIVE

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al·ter·na·tive

adjective \ȯl-ˈtər-nət-iv, al-\   (Medical Dictionary)

Medical Definition of ALTERNATIVE

: of, relating to, or based on alternative medicine <alternative therapies>

I love all things alternative, alternative rock, alternative fashion, alternative news, alternative medicine, alternative lifestyles, and I started Lavoce due to my desire for an alternative career. To me, “alternative” is another word for liberty and freedom of choice (no, I’m not being political here). What I mean to say is that it celebrates our free will and our willpower that drives us to succeed in whatever it is we want to do, whether it is spend our life playing video games and learning how to tie a cherry stem with your tongue or joining the circus. You have 100% control over your destiny because you have the power of choice. Have fun with it. Enjoy it. Do what you love and love what you do. Live the American dream: always be in pursuit of your happiness.

I don’t care if you want to go all out and do something like some Japanese did in this article, which showcases an example of a wild alternative style: http://living.msn.com/style-beauty/simply-chic-blog-post/?post=324569dc-719f-40de-908e-2cb803e0e27e&_nwpt=1. Whatever you want to do is 100% OK with me. I support any alternative path you take.

My name ain’t eBo for nothing. If you take the words “be” and “do,” remove the “d,” and shuffle the letters, you get my name because I want you to be and do whatever you want. Don’t let anyone ever steal your dreams.

As Robert Frost said, “I took the one [road] less traveled by,/And that has made all the difference.”

Source: http://www.merriam-webster.com

Fashion “Freedom” (George Michael Tribute)

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I especially liked this video for conveying Lavoce’s purpose and mission visually and audially. Visually, even though the actors aren’t the supermodels they portray, they put in a lot of work to make this as correct as possible, under the field of crossdressing. Audially, it’s all about the lyrics. Listen to the lyrics. There’s quite a bit of depth in them despite the fact that someone filed this video under comedy. “Sometimes the clothes do not make the man” is what it seems to boil down to for me. When I hear it I think of suits and ties not reflecting what we want to express about who we are and who we want to become. We are not trapped by fashion. It is fashion (on our terms) that will make us free.