This is a special day



It took me only all of my life to get to this moment. Today is the first day that I truly realized my parents really want me to be all I can be. Never before did I realize that my parents truly want me know myself and be who I want to be. They do not want me to walk in their shoes and do what they did. They do not want me to do what they did not do. They want what’s best for me. They want me to get what I want, not what they think I want. They truly want me to think for myself; they do not want me to be their carbon copy and believe everything they believe. It only takes a few words, repeated many times in my life, but it took a lifetime to understand. My parents are my allies and my greatest fans.

I truly wish that everyone could feel what I feel today. I want to share this feeling with others.


Killing Sikhs is Sick!


You might have heard about the shooting in the Sikh temple in Oak Creek, WI. Many Americans are still ignorant about the Sikh culture in general. One of the many things Lavoce can do is open your mind to the Sikh culture and Sikhs in general. You can learn more about the turban, that one article of clothing that makes them eligible to be covered were “fashion” included in Title VII of the Civil Rights Act. It is clear that we have a long way to go in opening people’s minds. Let’s start now.

Though it is an extreme case, Lavoce ambassadors are like the police officer who sacrificed his life for his fellow men. If people are too afraid to raise their hands to ask something in a classroom or webinar or are too afraid to return an RSVP to give the news that they will not be able to attend an event, imagine how many more are too afraid to stand up for their fellow citizens?

I wanted to address the white elephant in the room here as there is talk about music influence, similar to the talk surrounding the Columbine incident in the ’90s. Sure, it gave people a bad impression of the Goth culture since the shooters wore black trench coats, but time and again it was proven that the shooters were not Goths, and Goths cannot all be lumped under the category of “wears black.” Do you really think Goths would let an incident that happened in the ’90s affect an entire culture that started in the ’70s. If that is what people think, then they have another thing coming. It is all the more reason to be role models, to be twice as much as our “normal” counterparts. When Cho killed students in Virginia Tech, Koreans all over the world didn’t hide or look for cover just because a bad seed happened to be from Korea. Likewise, people in the military and veterans will not hide because the shooter happened to be from the Army. It’s true that the squeaky wheel gets the grease, just think back to your school days, but it should not be that way. This is why the new Goth, Lavoce ambassadors, should take part in giving and receiving recognition, so that no good deeds goes unrewarded and so that the good guys don’t finish last. Goodness prevails always. As sung in the musical, Wicked, “No one mourns the wicked.”

Change the world with $1.45


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The fashion revolution will be unlike any other revolution. It will be a subtle revolution. We go beyond non-violence and boycotts. That just gets attention, sometimes negative attention from those who are afraid of the unknown. If you try to get attention, you’ll get ignored for being the boy who cried wolf. Try to get less attention, and people will start to pay attention in a positive way. All you have to do is wear a pin. Talk about your dreams when people ask about it. Talk about your vision for a better tomorrow. Open up other people’s dreams.

Be professional. Be cool. Be calm. Be open-minded. Be charismatic and charming. Drop that which has no value to anyone.

We have already fought fire with fire. Where did it get us? Nowhere from what I can tell. Our fashion went before us and spoke for us before we could clarify what it said.

The only way to fight this war is to not fight. This is a war that will create awareness, which will cause people to question the way things are. It is a war for every person to internalize. Talk less. Encourage people to question more.

This button can do for the fashion-oriented what the Human Rights Campaign did for the gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender/transsexual (GLBT) community.

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The Corporate Employment Research Program Has Begun


“[S]elf expression is the dominant necessity of human nature.” –William Winter

“If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.” –Henry Ford

I’m back! Ain’t it wonderful! Now that my site has launched, I have just a bit more time to add posts and announcements to this blog.

If you are an employer, then you will be happy to know that I have started a research program focused on hard statistics, so that any employer will not be able to argue with the facts. I know that you may have felt that I ignored you, but I have not. I realize that word has to get around to employers first. My goal is to find tangible results in current statistics so that I can tell employers that Lavoce: We Are People Too can offer a better, untapped workforce in the corporate world who will be loyal and productive to their company.*

I am in the process of collecting usable statistics that I can show to prospective employers. If you own a Goth business or similar fashion-oriented business then please send all and any statistics to so that I can analyze it for employable traits. If you do not feel comfortable with giving me that data, then the second best thing is to send an email allowing me to set up polls on your site or to give me permission to contact your employees or customers for interviews.

Please click here to take the survey

*Note: We are not focusing on fashion freedom in such uniformed service organizations as the military, police, or construction workforce at this moment.

Get Ready for the New Site


I know it seems as if there’s not much activity on this site, but that’s only because I have worked and continue to work hard at creating a new site. I’m so excited about it, and you’ll be too.

On the new site you will find a ton of new stuff, including the following:

  • A place to advertise your business
  • Audio program
  • Books/eBooks
  • Coaching program
  • FAQs
  • Forum
  • Membership program
  • More tools
  • Tons of free stuff!
  • Videos
  • And more…

Coming soon!


You may have noticed that I have not been posting as often as usual. There is a very good reason for that. I have been working hard to give you more value. I am going to totally revamp the website and relaunch it on Independence Day. Feel free to bookmark the new site so that you’ll be ready to use it once it is published:

I decided to rename the website so that it is more informational and descriptive since Lavoce: We Are People Too is not yet a household name. The site starts with the word “style” because style implies individual taste that is inherent and unique. As Coco Chanel once said, “Fashion fades, only style remains the same.” In the same line, Jane Austen said, “One man’s style must not be the rule of another’s.” Blaise Pascal said, “When we see a natural style, we are astonished and charmed; for we expected to see an author, and we found a person.” When you enter a room, enter it in style. When you make mistakes, make them with style. Be free to live your lifestyle and always live your life with style.

The second word in the site name is “freedom” and that is why the new site will launch on a day of freedom. The third word is descriptive of the Lavoce: We Are People Too program. Lavoce: We Are People Too is not just a store. It is the first infomediary coaching program in existence. Access to the media store will occur in Phase 3 of the coaching program, not in the beginning because we all need to relearn the purpose of media as tools to help build a brighter future.

Thrive Movement


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Once you have taken these actions, consider how supporting Lavoce: We Are People Too directly impacts at least five of the ten action steps:

  • Get Informed, Speak Up, and Connect with Others:The whole concept of Lavoce: We Are People Too is the idea that people will learn what it is like in others’ shoes (e.g., the shoes of family, friends, romantic interests, enemies) without having to go through the same experiences. This is possible through books and media. Everyone considers themselves the only one who understands what it’s like to be them. Eventually their pain is so great that they feel a burning desire, an obligation, to share what they know to those who don’t know. By now there are books and media for practically every group of people under the sun, but these authors are preaching to the choir because the people who buy their books already know some of what’s in the books. In that respect Lavoce is not the messenger, but the message distributor, focused on getting the message out to those who do not actively search for it.

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    Using the “torus” as an image, consider that information via books and media comes in through one of the funnels. A burst of cognition appears in the center of the torus when you are trying to grasp what you are learning. Out comes an understanding of a certain group of people from the other side, which will make one want to speak up about whatever was learned from the books and media. One way of speaking up is by creating books and other media, so you see something like a cycle encompassed by a web of connection with others and money circulation among those who deserve it, not those who want power over it.

  • Buy and Invest Responsibly: Purchases made through Lavoce will support not only fashion freedom, but open-mindedness and faith in humanity.
  • Support Independent Media: Media might refer to news to some, but I am expanding that definition to include any written or verbal content. Through the discount program, Lavoce will raise awareness of small businesses and help them to “thrive.” We will all grow together. As you may have already seen, much of the free media available supports the concept of open-mindedness and faith in humanity because the suppliers of the free media believe it is so imperative to get out their message to everyone. The information is free because it is “highly important,” not “cheap.” Here I am going to also define core vs. extracurricular purchases. Core purchases in Lavoce support the aim of open-mindedness and faith in humanity. Extracurricular purchases are typical retail purchases that customers buy because they are interested in them personally (non-media falls under this category), not because it was recommended as a vehicle for changing one’s worldview.
  • Support Organic, Non-GMO Farming: Small businesses Lavoce will support through the discount program could be related to organic food. Employees will have organic foods and live herbs in kitchen areas, not non-organic coffee.
  • Take Part in Critical Mass Actions: There are three basic principles in Lavoce: We Are People Too. These are critical mass, six degrees of separation, and the snowball effect. Click the links to learn more. As with any revolution, the success of the fashion freedom revolution depends on money and numbers to support the cause.

If you are a customer who wants to get involved now, please email to set up a free consultation of how you can open your mind. If you are a supplier or want to show overall support, check out and

Fashion Freedom is the Final Frontier


The new mission of Lavoce is to amend Title VII of the Civil Rights Act (see About Lavoce). Let me elaborate why this change.

Corporate types are hung up on dressing for success and are fond of saying that if you’re not willing to make changes to your appearance, that you don’t seem to want a good paying job that badly. That’s true. Some people are not willing to sell their souls for a paycheck. I’m not saying if people who do are willing to sell their souls, but that is what it feels like to those who have made the opposite decision. Those who are not willing to compromise have made a commitment to themselves and should be honored for it (financially). They are noble and smart, not “losers.” The question is not how badly do employees want a job, but how badly do employers want quality employees?

Don’t you get tired of not being taken seriously by an employer? Women should not have to dress like men for men, and gays/lesbians should not have to dress like straight men/women to be taken seriously. Country folk should not have to dress like city people to be taken seriously either. Do you get tired of being barred from activities, such as city council meetings that are open to all citizens of America, because of the way you look?

Appearance and clothing is at the root of employment discrimination. Most people accept that people judge you by the way you look. Instead of accepting that while, in the same sentence, dreaming of world peace, consider changing how you judge people. That in itself will create world peace. Don’t just sit there complaining. Change your mind to change the world.

Don’t attack what makes you afraid (which is usually what you do not understand). You cannot fight fire with fire. Make the person who makes you afraid feel safe, then you will realize that there was nothing to fear after all.

In my life I have learned that the most important thing to remember is “to thine ownself be true,” re-emphasized in different ways throughout the ages. It’s “easier said than done” in a society whose codes of “behavior” go against this principle. You cannot “be yourself” if you are dressing like someone else or if your employer mandates that you dress a certain way and/or cut your hair to fit in. Americans talk about the pursuit of happiness, but put limits on that pursuit. Have you ever wondered why it is that way? It doesn’t have to be that way. I repeat–it does not have to be that way. If you cannot take your body with you (when you die), then why not learn to enjoy it while you can? That enjoyment feeds into happiness, so why put limits on it?

Throughout the world people are seeking their purpose in life. They may think that purpose connects to material things, and when they realize those things did not bring the inner peace they desired, they seek for enlightenment, which cannot be found in the body. Would you say judging people (say the disabled) on appearance is your purpose in life or that it helps you attain enlightenment? No? I didn’t think so. Then why do it if it is not going to give you comfort and satisfaction? What most people think is seeing is really blindness because it is blinding them to what is in the soul. Some say that love is blind, but in actuality love is the only thing that allows one to see. Keep that in mind while you are being the change that you want to see in the world.

My Story


“Look through the outer crust of personal adornment, clothes, so-called culture and the like, and down deep into the heart of all about him. […] An old farmer up in Vermont always used to wind up his prayers with this plea: ‘Oh, God, give me an open mind!’ If more people followed his example they might escape being hamstrung by prejudices. And what a pleasant place to live in the world would be.” —Napoleon Hill

You may think that people who dress outrageously just want to get attention or are in a phase, but you would be wrong.

When I was a freshman in high school, I dreamed of being a fashion designer. My Goth friends actually couldn’t wait to go to school just to see what I was wearing, but I still had to sneak out of the house wearing “normal” clothes and change in the restroom every morning. Eventually I got tired of the stares; it only exaggerated the shyness in my head. I have struggled for years to make my exterior match my interior because I felt forced to give off a false impression of who I am to pay my bills. Sometimes this would even translate into looking happy when I feel an opposite emotion. Is this not ridiculous?

I have met people who dress outrageously every day and will never stop in all walks of life. There are people who just dress the way their religion dictates among those who do not share their belief or understand even one minor concept of their belief. This is courage, not attention-getting, and those who dress for less than noble reasons make things difficult for the rest of us who just want freedom. The courageous will never compromise their freedom for money. I was not one of them, but I want to make life better for them and for me. I see people who have compromised, had meltdowns, covered themselves in tattoos when they decided to quit compromising, then struggled financially. But why is compromise necessary? Why indeed? Not everyone who has a tattoo wants to work in a tattoo parlor for the rest of their lives, and not everyone who has a salaried job wants to wear a suit and tie for the rest of their lives.

Those who fit neither group go to Renaissance festivals, dance clubs, gay bars, or anime conventions to feel free on the weekends or maybe just once a year, but such things are a package deal and not everyone is interested in the entire package because oftentimes it involves peer pressure or spending a lot of cash.

The movement will not be over until dressing for success has nothing to do with a suit and tie. Sure, you can wear that if it makes you feel good, but you can’t expect that it will make everyone feel good.

Your life will be greatly improved when you can feel comfortable in your own skin and fantastic in your own clothing and allow other people to feel the same way.

Changing the Game Plan Part II


I was thinking about how this is an online business initially and will not be a brick-and-morter business until donations and sales result in enough capital. Therefore, even though the focus is on fashion freedom, no one can actually see each other in a natural face-to-face way, so no one can practice getting past the real images that face us and the perceptions we have of those images through this medium. Therefore, I have decided to change the initial focus to inclusive, inner “spirituality” focused on practical application (how to open your mind by combating ego and the reactive mind), not on dogma. What this means is that the focus will temporarily shift to Kabbalah, Dianetics, Buddhism, Maum Meditation, metaphysics, channeled writings, and other proven means of facilitating open-mindedness. Some may consider these means religious, but are in actuality something people can practice with any set of religious beliefs. The side effects of using these methods will be improved health, relationships, and finances. The brick-and-morter business will still be a fashion-focused safe haven. However, by making this temporary shift in the initial stage, most customers should already have practiced open-mindedness skills, thus making the safe haven aspect of the business more effective and rewarding.