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The Headdress and the Slut Walk

I was reading about Muslim fashion from the Economist and how it has been springing up on the fashion walks in the fashion capitals around the world. The article said that you could not call it “sexy.” Of course not! I even wondered why it was okay to call non-Muslim fashion sexy. Why is there such a prevalent attitude that women’s fashion is only for sex? Nudity is for sex. Being clothed is the opposite of being naked.

What do the headdress and the slut walk have in common? They both affirm women’s rights to be treated as human beings, not meat, and subsequently affirm men’s rights to be treated as human beings, not as annoying parasitic leeches made stupid by desires. Of course, they have very different methods for accomplishing the same thing.

Why do I blog about this under a Goth blog? Because being Goth is an affirmation that all humans have the right to pursue fashion with passion without fear of rape, leering, or (unwanted) stares. This applies even to women who as girls saw only the glamorous side of Madonna, women deemed “trailer trash,” and other women who use sex to sell and aspired to be like them.

“I make jokes about it, but it’s the truth that I kind of patterned my look after the town tramp. I didn’t know what she was, just this woman who was blond and piled her hair up, wore high heels and tight skirts, and, boy, she was the prettiest thing I’d ever seen. Momma used to say, “Aw, she’s just trash,” and I thought, That’s what I want to be when I grow up. Trash.”― Dolly Parton

In Saudi Arabia, where women wear headdresses, women value fashion so much that they spend as much on fashion as they do on rent and stores do not import more than one item of the same style lest two women be caught wearing the same thing. Beyond the headdress being an affirmation of religion, it is also a practical feature so that women can feel free to walk the streets alone without having to call for a cab, Uber, or Lyft.

“The moment that I step outside
So many reasons
For me to run and hide
I can’t do the little things
I hold so dear
‘Cause it’s all those little things
That I fear” – No Doubt – Just A Girl Lyrics | MetroLyrics

God (or Allah or Source) did not make us women to curse us; He (or She) made us women to bless us. He (or She) did not bless us with beauty, but curse us with an eye for fashion; nor did He (or She) bless us with an eye for fashion, but curse us with beauty.

Female Goths have a hard enough time feeling safe from normies; the last thing they need to worry about is feeling unsafe from their own male peers. Idealistically, female Goths should be free to choose a life of purity, monogamy, or asexuality if they so wish, and other female Goths’ desires for polyamory, nonmonogamy, or even addictive behaviors should not impede on other female Goths. Another tenet of feminism is that women should also have the right to change their preference.

All women should have the right to wear whatever they so choose without fear of rape or annoyance be they Goths, Muslims, or even aspiring “trailer trash.”

The Dream After Halloween

This Halloween I dressed up as Sally from The Nightmare Before Christmas. The title of this post is a deliberate play on The Nightmare Before Christmas, which was about people from a world about Halloween invading a world about Christmas (and alludes to the fact that I was too busy enjoying Halloween to post). Perhaps it is not appropriate to add a bit of Halloween to Christmas. However, I think we should all add a bit of Christmas to Halloween.

People say that we should treat every day as if it were Christmas, giving freely (of not just candy) and with a joyful heart. Everyone seems to get in on the fun, even non-Christians.

To a Goth, every day is Halloween, and we are free to be ourselves without worrying about what other people think, even if sometimes that means our employers. However, not everyone gets in on the fun with Halloween. There is that attitude that there is a certain age at which one should quit celebrating Halloween. I agree that it might be inappropriate for a 40-year-old to ask for candy, but that certainly does not prevent his or her ability to dress up (or down).

As for the word “dream” in the title, “dream” has multiple meanings. First, there is the real dream one has at night. I sometimes remember multiple dreams per night every night. They are always figurative and metaphorical, hard to decipher without some help. So in applying that idea here, I think Halloween represents our collective ability to feel safe being ourselves among coworkers and other judgmental adults. Goths should never work in a place that does not celebrate Halloween. If we do not feel safe, then we live in a nightmare.

“Dream” can also imply something wonderful, marvelous, spectacular, like paradise on earth. I feel that if we were able to make the world a safer place for fellow Goths, that we would indeed be living a paradise on earth. I am fortunate that for the first time in my life I started a new job around Halloween. The first impression I made was that this is the real me (what you see is what you get), and the specialness of that one day in the year made it possible for my true Goth self to continue flourishing and blooming even within a white-collar environment.

I did not have to sacrifice a good paycheck for the ability to be myself. Now that is a dream come true!

Welcome to Lavoce’s Directory

Do you ever get a nagging feeling that you should be doing something more important than what you are doing most of the time? I have had this feeling, and it’s been getting under my skin. You see, I have a pet project that I have worked on for some time. It is not perfect, but I have finally come to the realization that, with the limited time I have to work on such a time-consuming project, it may never be perfect, so I have decided to finally share it with you even though it’s still (and forever) in progress. I give to you Lavoce’s Directory: the most comprehensive and up-to-date (as in this decade, not the ’80s) Goth directory ever to be found on the Internet. The formatting is not the best and it’s not always in alphabetical order, but it is more useful for reviving the Goth community on the Internet than it is on my desktop. Even this introduction might not be the greatest introduction to such an amazing time-consuming project, but I hope that you can get some use out of it. Here you go!

Lavoce Directory

If you have suggestions on how I can improve it, please email me at lavoce.wap2@gmail.com. After I have posted the PDF online, I will be abandoning the PDF and will be moving it gradually to a software that will do a better job of formatting the directory for the Web. See the outline I have here: www.stylefreedominfomediary.com. I urge you to check in on my progress, but please be patient.

Where Did All the Goths Go?

There is no time in which a closeted Goth’s life stands in starker contrast than during a job search. It’s hard enough to compete with a suit and tie, who doesn’t have a guarantee either. We may try, but we know that we may never fit the mold. As I was contemplating these things, I caught a glimpse of an iPad poker game filled with  a trio of Goth players. Poker by itself does not necessitate that players be Goth, so the option for them to be got me to thinking. Apparently, the culture still exists, but in a space so underground that it’s practically alternative reality. It exists in a safe space away from the rest of the world–in the world of World of Warcraft, The Sims, Second Life, IMVU, online poker games, video games, iPhone games, and computer games. They exist in the land of the digital. They live in a gray space–real enough to identify with but too false to feel satisfying. Goths have been so suppressed that the culture has been relegated to the confines of (even standard) avatars, where we can project our desires without fear of losing our livelihood. A job search profile pic may never live up to one’s true identity, but an avatar can always express your true self without fear. It is certainly not the best way by a long shot, but when there is a will there will always be some sort of way to express ourselves.

Violence is Not the Answer

Today I am again reminded of how frequently people choose violence as a way of expressing anger. Two times there have been an active shooter (or the possibility of an active shooter) in a place close to me near dates that were important to me. I didn’t think I’d ever have to write a post about it here, but I feel that it is about time.

We all know about the current events with police brutality against blacks and the continuation of active shooters ever since the time I was in high school. In an American culture that glorifies violence, even over sex, it is not just surprising that there is violence, but it is surprising that there isn’t more.

The most relevant shooting to our group of people is the Columbine massacre, which many have confirmed were not the cause of Goths or the Goth culture. I will never forget that when a teacher told my friend to “take it off,” referring to his trenchcoat, he took off his shirt and put his trenchcoat back on. Now I’m not saying that I support defiance, especially when it comes to retaining a job, but I am saying that there are many ways to express ourselves that are nonviolent but just as effective.

The great thing about our fashion revolution is that it works best without violence. Actually, violence defeats the purpose of changing people’s opinions and stereotypes about us. People are not going to hire you under threat of force. Our revolution (to put Goths in jobs) will require us to do the work, and we will only get as far as the effort we put in. Our revolution is a revolution that will require our own self-improvement.

Passing Through the Closet

As we consider Rachel Dolezal, the NAACP leader and white woman who passed as, and identified as, a black woman, let’s consider all types of passing. We may consider Bruce Jenner’s passing as, and identification as, Caitlyn Jenner. Is passing really passing or is it being in the closet? At which point is the line drawn between these two similar concepts? Honestly, it’s easy to pass as mainstream, but it is difficult to be in the closet. Not only are our GLBT allies in the closet, but Goths the world over are in the closet. The more our GLBT allies come out of the closet, the more the Goths go back in, if you just look at the statistics from Vampire Freaks, the largest Goth organization that would have the data, you would know what I’m talking about.

If people think Rachel is crazy or Caitlyn is crazy for acting on how they self-identify, then call me crazy for self-identifying as a Goth and never giving up that identity. In today’s world, why must we pass for mainstream people? In today’s world, why must we continue to be shoved into the closet when everyone else is coming out? Why does everyone else get a protected class except for us? Does society think that everyone else’s identity is more important than our identity? Every time you think the world is being more open-minded about race, sexuality, etc. just consider for a moment if all that applies equally to Goths. If it doesn’t, then we still have a long way to go. We are not ghosts, and we are not invisible.

I don’t know about you, but I’m hoping to stick around so that something may be done about it.

Culture Wars

You may have heard of the culture wars. You might have heard that it’s political, between the two major American political parties. I disagree. There is a culture war going on, yes, but it ain’t in politics–it’s in corporations. If you feel that you have to be anyone other than yourself, then the Man is keeping you down. You shouldn’t have to be more articulate, more hardworking, afraid to express anger, willing to trust the system, or perfect to survive, to pay your bills, or to afford rent. People who make it in Corporate America are not cultured, just the opposite–they are without culture. Lets just take a look at the United States of America. You’ll find culture in the tourist spots and the poorest cities–Albuquerque, Baltimore, New Orleans–because Corporate America does not reward culture or history. Corporate America rewards the DC area because the shiny, happy judgers of others all have smooth edges and surround themselves with suburbs and newness. They are the Stepford Wives of America, and as with the movie, they could all easily be replaced with robots and androids. Corporate America drains the color out of everything and everyone until all that’s left is white collars. We need to put lipstick on those collars, add color back to the workplace,  and have an affair with real living. We need to admit that we cannot rely only on the innovators–those only concerned with the newness in the technology sector–to carry the weight of a nation. We need to admit that we need all people. Many Goths and like people have heard people say of them that “it takes all kinds,” and in a way that’s true. It does take all kinds of people to make the world go round. We should not put all of our eggs in one basket; we should diversify. What is America if not diverse? We need to celebrate that diversity–and I don’t just mean diversity of race, but diversity of skillsets, diversity of insight, and diversity of personality. Above all, we need to celebrate culture, whether “subculture” or not. If we don’t, then we may lose any remnants of the past and of ourselves.

Who Would Know Black Better Than Blacks?

A while back I said that Goths don’t come from ghettos. Perhaps it’s time for me to revise that statement. Goths didn’t use to come from ghettos, but times have changed.

Back in the 70s, 80s, and 90s Goths were mostly white, but they were also mostly openminded, intelligent, and accepting of those not accepted into regular society, such as full-figured people and people with disabilities (as is apparent from Goth retailers).

Nowadays, it’s possible that the demographics have changed—it may or may not be mostly black now because Goths don’t look entirely like what they used to. And this is why people think that “Goth is dead,” but I believe that you cannot kill a spirit and you cannot kill a soul (the Goth spirit and the Goth soul).

In my area, most of the white people from the suburbs wear suits and ties and most of the white Goths have moved to other cities and states.Aspects of the originally white Goth culture have trickled to the black community in DC. Most of the black people from the city have adopted Goth styles—rainbow hair, piercings, and tattoos.(Granted, they have gauges now too, which elder Goths would have worn earlier if they had the idea.)

It is now more acceptable to employ black people with rainbow haircolors than white people with rainbow haircolors. I see this daily on buses and trains. Granted, I speak from a narrow viewpoint as someone from the DC area and can only tell you the changes I have observed here.

Some blacks have even gone so far as to take on the Goth label, whether intentionally or by others labeling them. For example, black rappers like Kanye West and Rocky A$AP (originally from my area), have led the street Goth fashion—which consists of mixing high end fashion with low end fashion.

To me, this makes a lot of sense. Who would know the power of the color black better than blacks? I think this is fitting because Goths have always been associated with the color black as well as with an edgier attitude. As times change, the black community has been more willing to take on the role of the rebel.

People avoid the Goth label to avoid the stereotypes, but every group has its stereotypes. If you have black skin will you say you are not black to avoid stereotypes? People would look at you like you’re crazy. If you are a Korean adoptee and you say you are not Korean people will still look at you like you’re crazy, even if you aren’t part of Korean culture. Should you really avoid a label to save your own skin but not to save others who need the power of unity? For example, just because you say you’re straight doesn’t always mean you are. And if you act flamboyantly you can’t be assured of safety just because you haven’t yet owned the label.

Now I understand that you have more choice over the matter concerning what you call yourself, being that the Goth movement, more than any other subculture, has been marked by been indefinable and without a leader. In fact, it is definable as indefinable. Many have tried and many have failed. True, it was a culture that sprang up from music, but in the end it became a culture as rooted as much in fashion as it was in music.

If it has morphed into a fashion culture, then how can you say that you are not Goth if you have a full head of unnatural rainbow hair color in shades of red, orange, pink, yellow, green, blue, or purple when you were born with black hair? How can you say that you are not Goth if you wear a wig of those colors on a daily basis or if your dreads are dyed one of those colors? How can you say that you are not Goth if you have piercings, gauges, and tattoos? How can you say that you are not Goth if spikes are on your shoes, pants, jackets, and backpacks? How can you say that you are not Goth if you have a mohawk or liberty spikes?

Wherever outcasts are there Goths will be. Wherever artists are there Goths will be. Wherever rebels are there Goths will be. Wherever openminded people are there Goths will be.

It doesn’t matter if you are black, Goth, or a black Goth; we all fight for the same thing—a safe environment in which we can be free. We also fight against the same thing—appearance-based discrimination, whether in the workplace or on the street.

We fight for safety. We fight for freedom. We fight for acceptance, not just toleration. We fight to be who we are. We fight to pay our bills and feed our children. We fight to live. And we fight for something to live for.

Identify who you are. Accept who you are. And know what you will fight for.

Gray by eBo Young

The grayest sky,

the grayest sea,

no color is more in between extremes.

There’s nothing boring about the middle way.

Inclusivity is unlike the holier than thou 1% in every way.

When positive thinking marketers make darkness dim

and white cookie cutters grin,

the last option for compassionate artistic expression is gray.

Gray cements the foundation.

When the blackest building is demolished,

it’s the gray cornerstones that remain.

Black ties rule the night and white shirts rule the day,

but gray pants of every shade are here to stay.

As solid as stainless steel,

gray metal is more consistent than I feel,

from day to day to day.

Neutrals go with everything,

and for employees who go with everyone

an employer will handsomely pay.

Like the loyal stones, they stay.

There is nothing more lasting for our purposes than gray.

No matter our form, we will not go away.

Existing employment practices hold no sway.

We will have our day

when darkness turns to gray.

Fashion Freedom is the Final Frontier 2

Fashion freedom is the final frontier for anti-discrimination laws. We all agree that you can’t change your skin color, age, or gender (unless you try really, really hard and are determined). Many agree that you can’t change sexual orientation today. However, not everyone agrees that you can’t change your fashion style. I argue that clothing and body modifications reflect personality and culture, which are both ingrained and are both aspects of one’s identity, as are the intricately connected values and priorities that come with them. The suppression of freedom of expression in a country that values freedom of expression, and the denial thereof, points to an entire society’s complete hypocrisy. A suppression of personality, culture, and identity, as well as the belief that certain people must conform and alter who they are not only to be liked, but to survive, destroys not just a country, but an entire world.

Lavoce’s new, simpler logo is representative of Lavoce’s changes.

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Lavoce’s New Business Logo

Lavoce has gone through many concept changes since 2010. The original idea of Lavoce was that it should be a bookstore, then the concept changed to relationship coaching, and now the concept of Lavoce is as the producer of the world’s largest alternative lifestyles print directory plus the potential to evolve into the cross between a temp agency and consulting agency.

But even though the concept of Lavoce changes, the mission and focus has always remained the same. No matter how much Lavoce (and its logo) changes, it will always have the same soul—a soul filled with compassion for the downtrodden and oppressed.

The attack on who we are as human beings is more destructive than an attack on our race, age, or gender for it goes to the very root of us and what makes our life worth living. It is the ego’s final push to make us all pliable, willing subjects to an authority’s rule. The suppression of our style is different from any other type of discrimination that was brought to light before for it does not seek to contain us in a box, but to move us from our natural state of being into a way of being that seems natural for others who are not ourselves. We must not kowtow. We must not give in.

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Fashion Freedom is the Final Frontier

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